Special Needs Estate Planning

Parents of a child with special needs must confront a myriad of challenges managing their child’s condition while planning for their child’s future well-being.  Special needs estate planning focuses on making available adequate care and sufficient resources for a family member with a mental impairment throughout his or her life in context of a family’s overall estate plan.  Proper preparation of a special needs estate plan is both essential and requires a unique understanding of a complex web of state and federal laws that may significantly impact public benefits available to a loved one with a disability throughout his or her life.  Being aware of these rules is critical for parents of children with mental illnesses so that they may construct an estate plan that provides for the care and well-being of their special needs loved ones throughout their lives. 

Whether or not your child’s special needs is manageable such that she or he can take care of herself or himself adequately, it is imperative that your estate plan addresses their specific condition to help ensure that she or he receives proper medical care, maintains a standard of living and quality of life in which she or he is accustomed, and is guarded against negative influences after you are gone.  If your child’s mental illness is severe and constitutes a legal disability under applicable federal and state legal rules, he or she may be eligible to receive certain public benefits such as Supplemental Security Income (“SSI”) and Medi-Cal (or Medicaid outside California).      

Parents of children with special needs should consider consulting an attorney well-versed in special needs planning to help develop and implement an appropriate estate plan that specifically addresses their unique challenges and needs.  Without proper planning, an otherwise well-intentioned estate plan may inadvertently disqualify a special needs child from public benefit program eligibility.  As part of a family’s overall estate plan, an attorney may prepare a certain type of trust (commonly referred to as a “special needs trust”), which helps provide for a mentally disabled child’s future well-being while preserving his or her eligibility for SSI, Medi-Cal and other public benefit programs. 

Proper estate planning also may address less severe, but potentially debilitating needs.  Even if your child has the capacity to take care of himself or herself despite his or her special needs, a well-tailored plan may help deal with the unique challenges stemming from your child’s specific condition.  Children who suffer from alcoholism or drug addiction, for example, may be susceptible to negative influences throughout their lives.  Through the creation of trusts (not necessarily special needs trusts) an estate plan may effectively help guard against such influences or individuals who attempt to take advantage of your loved one’s condition for personal gain.  Your estate plan therefore may be crafted flexible enough to accommodate substantial improvements in your child’s condition such that she or he ultimately may take care of herself or himself adequately.     

As you are well aware, mental illness can be just as debilitating to one’s quality of life as any physical illness.  Your child’s well-being is your number one priority.  Your estate plan may effectively provide for your loved one’s care and quality of life in the way that you see most appropriate and, consequently, can help bring you and your family some peace of mind.

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The Importance of Breakfast

Breakfast or “breaking the fast” is an extremely important meal.  Many people choose to skip this meal for a variety of reasons including: it saves time, people incorrectly think it is a good way to lose weight, or the person is not hungry because of a late dinner.

Breakfast is the first chance the body has to refuel glucose levels from fasting over the night.  Glucose is essential for healthy brain/central nervous system function, is a main energy source for the body, and fuels the muscles for physical activity.   Breakfast helps to regulate a person’s appetite for the day which leads to less caloric intake for the day.

A healthy breakfast is high in protein, fiber and antioxidants and low in fat.  Protein helps with maintaining appetite control and stabilizes blood sugar.  High fiber helps with energy, decreases cholesterol, lowers blood pressure and helps to maintain insulin production (less insulin production means less hunger and less inflammation.)  Antioxidants decrease the risk of chronic diseases.

The effects of a healthy breakfast include:

  • increased cognitive abilities,
  • increased attention span,
  • increased concentration,
  • increased memory,
  • increased reasoning abilities,
  • increased alertness,
  • shorter reaction time,
  • increased work productivity,
  • increased energy,
  • decreased irritability,
  • decreased stress,
  • decreased fatigue,
  • decreases unhealthy weight gain.

Eating breakfast is important for everyone, and it is especially so for children and adolescents. Give the gift of health to your child or teen and make sure they have a healthy breakfast before taking on the day.

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Bullying

Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency. Bullying can have long-lasting effects.  Youth who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development.  Bullying can cause your child to experience fear, depression, loneliness, anxiety, low self-esteem, physical illness, and in some cases suicidal thoughts.  Additional consequences include: increase in missing more school because of excused and unexcused absences, higher risk for running away from home, and increase problems with alcohol and drug use.

Two of the main reasons people are bullied are because of appearance and social status. Bullies pick on the people they think don’t fit in, maybe because of how they look, how they act (for example, kids who are shy and withdrawn), their race or religion.  Bullying behavior can be physical or verbal. Boys tend to use physical intimidation or threats, regardless of the gender of their victims. Bullying by girls is more often verbal, usually with another girl as the target.  Bullying is even reported in online chat rooms and through e-mail.  Children targeted by bullies also tend to fit a particular profile.  Bullies often choose children who are passive, easily intimidated, or have few friends.  Victims may also be smaller or younger, and have a harder time defending themselves.

One of the most painful aspects of bullying is that it is relentless. Most people can take one episode of teasing or name calling or being shunned at the mall.  However, when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person in a state of constant fear.  Unfortunately victims are often reluctant to talk about bullying, because they’re afraid of appearing weak in their parents’ eyes.  It important for parents to keep a close eye out for sudden changes in their child’s behavior.  These signs include withdrawal, a sudden drop in grades, a reluctance to go to school, staying away from kids who were formerly friends, self-deprecating talk, frequent complaints of headaches or stomach aches, crying episodes and unexplained bruises.

Children and adolescents who bully thrive on controlling or dominating others.  They have often been the victims of physical abuse or bullying themselves.  Bullies may also be depressed, angry or upset about events at school or at home.

If you feel your child is being bullied it is important to stay calm and get involved as soon as possible.

Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal difficulties..  Listen to your teen, don’t blame them, gather as much information as you can, empathize with their feelings, don’t criticize if you disagree with how your child handled it.  Talk to your child’s pediatrician, teacher, principal, school counselor, school officials or if necessary law enforcement.

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Strengthening Your Brain

When you ask most people about strengthening their brain many people believe what they are born with it what they have for the rest of their life.

Until recently, a popular misconception was that neurons die through life and do not get replenished.  However, new research shows that the brain is more like a muscle-it changes and gets stronger when you use it.  We now know that our brains enjoy lifelong brain plasticity or neuroplasticity. Continue reading

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Homework

Most teachers encourage at least an hour per night of homework and most adults feel, homework is an important aspect of school life and teaches students important skills that they will need later in life. Many students tend to strongly dislike having to do homework.  Students find it difficult, frustrating, and laborious, producing resistance, careless work, stress at home, and conflicts between struggling students, parents, and teachers. Continue reading

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